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Why complaining to the wrong person ruins your career growth

Your boss isn’t your therapist, and venting won’t fix anything. Discover the tactical moves that actually improve your work life—and your career trajectory.

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Why complaining to the wrong person ruins your career growth

Dealing with a challenging manager can be a frequent issue for many tech professionals. Career coach Kyle Elliott, who leads People & Talent at Levels.fyi, cautions that employees often make crucial mistakes when navigating these situations. One of the most significant errors? Complaining to the wrong person, including their own manager.

Elliott explains that many tech employees grapple with difficult managers. However, seeking career advice from a coach may not be the most effective use of time or money. He notes that coaching sessions can be expensive, costing far more than simply discussing the issue with a trusted colleague.

When addressing concerns with a challenging boss, Elliott advises selecting a private setting. Employees should balance constructive feedback with positive remarks instead of just listing complaints. He also emphasizes that bosses are not therapists; they expect actionable solutions, not just problems.

Elliott's advice underscores the importance of a strategic approach when tackling workplace conflicts. Employees should focus on practical solutions and avoid wasting resources on unproductive venting. The aim is to enhance the situation, not just express frustration.

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